Dating is just the first step in finding a girlfriend. Next comes the most important part – getting to know her. While attraction and chemistry each have their place, one of the most important components of a successful relationship is your compatibility. (That’s why eharmony uses a compatibility matching system to find potential mates for you – we’ve successfully matched over a million couples over the years, and we think it works!)
It’s important to go on a variety of different dates during the initial stages of dating, especially ones that allow you to talk to each other while you’re on the date. Communication is key at all stages of a relationship, and in the first few months you can communicate to get to know each other well enough to decide if you want to take the relationship to the next level. Here are some tips for getting to know her:
What’s the most important way to get to know someone? Active listening. Active listening is a skill that involves listening intently to what the other person is saying. Respond and think about what the other person is saying and memorize that information for later.
If you don’t like to talk, you should find other ways to get to know each other better. Spending time doing things together, whether it’s a date – a hike, a museum visit, a board game night – or doing simple tasks – shopping or other errands — are all great ways to get to know the kind of person your partner is.
If it’s something you’re both interested in, a fun date night might be to look up a list of questions to ask each other. We’ve gathered a lot of questions to ask each other, as well as questions you can ask her. Just make sure to be honest with each other!
