So you’ve put in the work, met someone you like and want to get to know her better …… For those of you wondering how to find a girlfriend in real life, what’s the obvious next step? Ask her out. The prospect of asking someone out can be very nerve-wracking, especially if you’re not sure if she likes you too. She might say no, in which case it’s really important to respect her wishes and move on to someone else, no matter what any relationship expert or Hollywood romantic comedy says.
However, she may say yes. That’s why the best advice on how to find a girlfriend is to pluck up the courage, as Shakespeare once said, and ask. Not sure how to ask her out? Here are some tips on how to find a girlfriend this way:
Observe her beforehand to make sure she’s really interested in you. It’s easy to mistake simple kindness or professionalism for romantic interest, so take the time to make sure she wants to go out with you.
When you ask her out, be both casual and specific. Instead of asking her if she’d like to hang out, ask her if she’d like to watch a movie with you or have coffee on a specific date and time. Making the first date as casual as a cup of coffee takes the pressure off of both of you, and allows you to extend the date if it goes well, or end it quickly if it doesn’t.
Make sure the date is something she enjoys doing – if she’s a food lover, you can suggest a walk to the farmer’s market, or if she enjoys the outdoors, maybe she’d like to go hiking on the first date.
