Attend free events
No matter how big or small, every location hosts events open to the public – art gallery openings, author signings, concerts, stand-up comedy shows, the list goes on. Pick an event you like and head over – you never know who you’ll meet.
Start a conversation while you’re in line
It’s true that most people call – but if they don’t, you should definitely say hello, because the first step to finding a boyfriend is actually talking to another person. Even if you don’t succeed, you may end up making an unexpected friend.
Go to a bar or arena to watch a sporting event
Even if you don’t know anything about sports, you should still go to a game – you might meet a really handsome boy who is happy to explain the rules to you. Or if you’re a fan, it’s always fun to watch a game with other people.
Compliment strangers
People like to hear nice things about themselves. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but it does have to be genuine – even something as simple as “I love your shoes” or “That t-shirt is awesome” can break the ice and make a connection.
Volunteer
No matter what your interests or skill level, you can find volunteer opportunities. In addition, you can make the world a better place while potentially meeting others who share your altruistic spirit – win-win!
Take a course
Just because you’ve been graduating for years doesn’t mean you should stop learning. Whether it’s at a community college, a local arts center, or online, taking classes is a great way to expand your horizons – and you may find a lifelong learning partner.
Visit an art gallery
Many galleries organize tours, which are a great way to learn about the culture and meet new people. You can also wander around – wouldn’t starting a conversation around a piece of art be the perfect way to go on a date?
Leave your cell phone at home
Leaving your phone at home (or at least turning it off and putting it in your pocket) means you’ll be free from the temptation to constantly browse the web and instead focus on the world around you – who knows what (or who) you’ll find then?
Demanding settings
Before eharmony came along, people were friends and family. They knew you and wanted you to do well, so if you really want a boyfriend, it’s a good idea to let your loved ones help you find cute single men.
Spend time outdoors
Even if you’re not a nature lover through and through, there are tangible health benefits to being outdoors. Don’t want to take a long walk? Then go for a walk in a nearby park or take a foraging or bird-watching class.
Seeking recommendations from others at a bookstore
Yes, brick-and-mortar bookstores still exist – and they’re a fun way to find a boyfriend. Most readers love to talk about books, so you can ask that cutie browsing on the shelf what they think you should read next.
Participate in activities outside your comfort zone
Maybe the reason you can’t find a boyfriend is because you’ve exhausted all of your current options. Going somewhere new (poetry readings, quiz nights) is a great way to meet new people.
Give him something other than a drink at the bar
You could send him a drink …… but that’s so cliché. Why not switch it up and get him some fun snacks like fries or appetizers – that way you’ll stand out in a good way. Who knows, he might even share!
Go to a local bar or board game cafe for trivia night!
Even if you’re not an avid fan of trivia yourself, find a team or just go to the audience. You’ll learn something fun and new, and maybe finally say yes to a date.
Reconnect with your school or college friends
Luckily, in the age of social media, tracking down your former crushes has never been easier. You never know who else might be single and interested in you!
Change Your Fitness Habits
Do you usually feel good just working out on the treadmill for an hour? Then sign up for a group activity like a yoga class or CrossFit, and even if it doesn’t mean you’ll find a boyfriend, it’s always good to change up your workout habits once in a while.
Host a dinner party
When it comes to how to find a boyfriend, the key is to pick your guests carefully. Have them bring someone they think might be a good fit for you and get to know them over good food.
Ask for his opinion at the grocery store
This is a variation of the bookstore option that’s much simpler. Ask him to help you carry something, or have him help you try a fun new snack he thinks you should try. Who knows, you two might hit it off in the produce aisle.
Play Tourist in Your Own City
While cruises or tours are a great way to meet new people, they’re not an option for most of us. On the other hand, many cities offer guided tours for not much more than the cost of a drink and a movie. Pick a topic – food, history, even ghosts – and sign up. Yes, he may just be visiting – but that’s what long-distance relationships are for.
Start online dating
Did you know that 3 out of 10 Americans have used a dating site or app at one time or another?3 When it comes to how to find a boyfriend, online is a great option, especially if you live in a small city, have niche interests, or are too busy to listen to the other suggestions on this list.
