Wang Mi graduated from university for many years, has been doing magazine editor, over the years Wang Mi has become the editorial director. 32 years old has a house and a car, because not pay attention to love on the initiative single. Until Wang Mi 32 years old this year, in a literary party, met their love. Zhang Minghui 36 years old, is a doctor, single in a software company to work, an annual salary of about 500,000, also has a house and a car. Two equal men and women decided to get married after dating for a year. Zhang Minghui and I are not people who like children, so we don’t care about how old we are to have children, and our parents don’t care about whether we have children or not.
One good thing about the children of the Kochi family is that they respect each other’s choices and do not impose their own will on each other. I have always felt that the marriage with Zhang Minghui is because of love and marriage, not because of anything else. If I have children, I am not afraid, because I can afford my own children. People who get married relatively late, are very transparent about marriage, have seen clearly the problems that need to be prevented and need to be solved, not to mention the nature of my marriage with Zhang Minghui still feel together. They say falling in love is easy, and managing a marriage is not easy. I always thought Zhang Minghui was the kind of man who loved his wife and respected women, but later found out that was not the case at all.
Zhang Minghui bone is very man doctrine, when falling in love, he cares about the demeanor of men, I lose my temper and do not care about me. After marriage, Zhang Minghui seems to have changed a person like, at home and abroad need me to worry about, his relatives and friends came to my home to live for a week also need me to take care of, I work very tired, let him play a leader, he actually said: this is a woman’s work. To be a wife, you have to be a good wife and mother. I refuted Zhang Minghui and said: I don’t depend on you to support this family, why do you want me to obey you? Because you’re my wife. You don’t do housework. I’m the man of the house. I hated Zhang Minghui’s remarks so much that I once moved back to my own house to live, whatever he did.
Before marriage, I left myself a mind, no matter how loving a couple, will eventually quarrel, if the house is the husband, the wife does not belong to their own house, the couple quarrel will hurt each other, and it is better to live for a while. Besides, I have had enough of Zhang Minghui’s various friends living at home, but also let me wait on them, why should I wait on them, let them in a pile, self-sufficient. In this way, I and Zhang Minghui married cold War, he can not change at every turn I am a man, I want what kind of male chauvinism, I dare not easily with him pregnant, he will only make me after giving birth to children, I more hard life more passive. After I quarreled with Zhang Minghui, we had several deep discussions, but later found that he cared more about his own feelings and did not think that he was wrong.
The so-called good wife and good mother is a label that men give women, the core of which is to let women pay more. In today’s society, women and men are making money and struggling, why should women have to sacrifice more, even if the sacrifice is dedicated, there is not necessarily a man grateful. Whether men or women are independent individuals, not to impose their own life on each other is the best love and giving. Love is never about catering to each other, nor sacrificing oneself to fulfill each other. Love is something that makes yourself and the other person relaxed and happy, naturally, without any pressure.
Whether I love you, you love me, it is related to their own feelings. Don’t impose yourself on each other, don’t expect anything from each other, just because of love. Love carries: appreciation, respect, consideration, tolerance, warmth. Good love comes from the heart. I just think Zhang Minghui doesn’t love me, he just thinks we have the right conditions, the right conditions are not necessarily suitable for together, and finally we divorced, which is good for everyone. I can’t do what he wants, and he can’t do what I want, and we don’t have enough time to waste with someone who’s not right for us.
Men who don’t love you are the ones who control you, demand you, expect you to sacrifice and give. The man who loves you only wants you to be yourself and be happy. Men and women are independent individuals, do not put hope in others. The most wonderful thing about love is just because of love, because of the feeling, because of the willingness to be together.
